How selfish are you these days?
The Word “Selfish” – It’s a Mindset Thing!
What’s the thought that comes up for you to think of yourself as selfish?
What’s the feeling that follows?
On the 0-10 selfish meter, 0 being “I’m not at all selfish with myself” and10 being, “I am 100% self-absorbed selfish”, how would you rate your selfishness toward yourself?
How would others rate you?
This is a serious question to ask.
The answers all have to do with your mindset. The story you have bought into about being selfish toward yourself and how you choose to view it.
Chances are you aren’t practicing the important ingredient needed to make so much happen for yourself.
To practice self-love, self-compassion, self-care, self-empowerment, self-advocacy, calls upon you to be selfish toward yourself. And chances are, although you probably do a bang-up job being selfless with everyone else, you aren’t being selfish with yourself. Those around you may tend to agree!
The Most Needed Ingredient When Cooking Up Self-Care
In not practicing selfishness with yourself, how has this derailed your self-care?
If you want to be a role model for your children, teaching them how to love themselves, if you want to set an example for your friends or strive to show support for your employees emotional and mental wellness as a business owner or leader, it’s time for you to practice being more selfish toward yourself.
Here are some examples:
- Take your lunch hour.
- Don’t set your Sunday morning alarm.
- Ask your partner to not talk to you for one hour after you come home – a self-imposed “time out” to unwind.
- Buy yourself a 4 pack of mani/pedis and actually schedule them ahead of time.
- 2 days a week leave the office at 5P. Just do it.
- Buy yourself some flowers.
- Ask for 1 thing you need from someone, today.
- Take yourself to the matineé.
I would love to hear some of the ways you will practice being more selfish toward yourself today.
Make it a great day ahead and remember that liking yourself is non-negotiable.