You define and shape your life countless times every day by the decisions you make – the action or inaction that you take ~ whether it’s getting yourself to that morning gym class, picking a restaurant for your date night out or perhaps deciding to not accept that new job opportunity.
Decision making takes self-determination because all decisions create change and with change comes a whole host of feelings around the possible outcome.
I have no doubt that many daily decisions you make you make without thinking because you feel confident, having evidence of the outcome. How did that come about? I offer you the suggestion that these decisions that are now confidence -based, started out with some element of anxiety, or worry, perhaps fear. The level of feeling was small enough that you stepped into those feelings, determined to take a risk and found yourself coming out the other side – with success or if not, willing to try again. A simple example is trying a new food or taking that dare from a friend to try out that FREE exercise class that just opened up. You didn’t know what would be on the other side (stepping into courage) but you were willing to experience it.
There are larger decisions that come with a higher level of feeling attached. Fear, uncertainty, pressure, expectation – sometimes we think the level of feeling is too great that we opt out of committing to making a decision because of that. You opt out by deferring your power to others – spouses, relatives, friends, and colleagues, granting them the decision maker of your life at that moment. Think about the last time you handed over your decision making to someone else. Was there an afterthought of “I should have?”, or “I could have” or “If only I?” ~ wondering if you had stayed your course and made the decision instead things would have come out more favorably?
You may “think” that you don’t have the answer. You don’t know the right decision to make. But your inner wisdom does. The question is whether you are willing to trust her to listen to and empower her to make the decision on behalf of you?
Try to come to your own conclusions before seeking the guidance of others, and even then, treat their suggestions as supplementary information rather than votes to be tallied. Most importantly, before making your choice, release your fear of wrong decisions. If you can let go of the notion that certain choices are utterly right while others are entirely wrong, you will be less tempted to invite others to take the reigns of your destiny.
We have 2 primary things we are ultimately in control over, our thoughts and our action. When your choices (actions) are your own, you will be more likely to accept and be satisfied with the outcome of those choices. Your decisions will be a pure reflection of your desires, your creativity, your awareness, and your power.
Now go out and make it a great day for yourself,