In looking back at this week’s coaching calls, I was struck by the consistent theme that I heard everyone talk about in one form or another – a relapse in courage.
I explored with them the ways they may be giving up their power. Generally, when we are not feeling courageous, we aren’t feeling powerful. We give away our power in a variety of ways:
- not speaking a truth when someone has wronged us
- giving into addiction or unhealthy impulses
- taking on someone’s negativity
- speaking negatively about someone else
- holding on to a resentment
- not setting a boundary that leads to unhealthy results, the list can go on and on.
We discussed decisions they may have made or yet to make, out of a place of fear which erodes our feeling courageous. Every time we make a choice from a place of fear, we reinforce the thoughts we have, the beliefs we hold on to, that we aren’t worthy, aren’t strong enough, aren’t good enough. Thoughts of self-doubt.
Building courage starts with strengthening our self-esteem and confidence.
How do you ask?
The first step is learning to love ALL of our parts that make us a whole individual – where we came from, our past, our flaws, our mistakes, our shortcoming, and our fears.
Debbie Ford writes “We need to be warriors instead of victims, fighters instead of followers.”
A Warrior lives and acts with great strength, integrity, and commitment. Having said this, all of you are Warriors. You read this blog and perhaps others, as a way to learn or be reminded of some tidbit to encourage a healthier step forward today. You may be a coaching client of mine, wanting to enhance your personal foundation and learn a healthier way to tap into your strengths. You are open to being a student of life with the intention to be and live, as your best Self.
Seize your inner Warrior today. Tap into her, listen to her voice. What is one thing she is whispering to you?
WRITE IT DOWN AND REFERENCE IT.
You will move back into a courageous, confident state of mind and being.
Now go out there and make it a great day for yourself ~
P.S. ~ Do you know of someone who is allowing their self-doubt to get the best of them? My free e-book is waiting to be downloaded from my website www.joanneroyerphd.com. “5 Initial Steps to Step Out of Self-Doubt”.
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