If you have children or have the pleasure of interacting with them you know there was a reason why someone coined the phrase “Kids say the darndest things” (perhaps I’m dating myself on that one!).
Children are the original straight shooter – their beautiful innocence motivates them to tell it like it is.
Throughout the course of my professional career, I have been blessed to have received wonderful accolades from clients, co-workers, and colleagues. I have great friends and family who remind of how wonderful I am. And sometimes, even out of the blue, as my self-esteem is at its low, I’ll get a “God shot”, a stranger will throw out a compliment to me. In the past, I would usually say a polite “thank you” yet the praise, their compliment, would be felt only on the surface. Why? Because before you could blink an eye my critical and self-doubting thoughts would be all over that compliment, questioning the validity of it. I couldn’t take it in. I couldn’t get rid of the question mark that I would add onto their compliment.
The other day I was sitting at the park taking a much-needed break from the day. A basketball rolled next to me and a little boy ran up to retrieve it, his older brother in tow. Upon retrieving the ball he turned around to go back to his game, saying to his brother – that lady is beautiful.
What if my choice in thinking about myself isn’t true? What if I am beautiful. What if I am accomplished. What if I am an amazing woman.
What if my thoughts that I have (habitually) thought about myself are the lie?
Today’s challenge is to take away the question mark that always seems to follow when you receive a compliment of any sort.
Person says: “You are beautiful”
Your typical thought: “Am I beautiful?” No.
Your new normal thought: “I am beautiful” Thank you!
Now go out and make it a great day!
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